Win-Win Thinking: the abundance mentality

The opposite orientation: the belief that the pie is fixed, that another man's gain is your loss, that praise and recognition and resources are zero-sum. Covey's published observation: the scarcity man cannot genuinely celebrate another brother's promotion or honor; he experiences it as something taken from him. The fix is not pretending; it's noticing the pattern and choosing the other paradigm deliberately, repeatedly, until it becomes the default.