Values: the lens you plan through

Brené Brown's published frame: when you own your story you get to write the ending; when you deny it the story owns you. Values become durable when a man accepts what he has actually been (mistakes, ungenerous moments, broken promises) rather than performing a polished version. The published Masonic charges call this the work of subduing the passions; modern shame and vulnerability research (Brown 2010, 2012) calls it the precondition for change.